My mum already has a new man in her life but my dad hasn’t even been dead a year – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: MY father hasn’t been dead a year and my mother already has a new man in her life.

My father was only 49 when he had a heart attack so his death was a terrible shock to all our family.

I am a guy aged 23 but I have a little brother who is ten.

Mum says this man was a friend of my father’s when they were younger.

My mother and I have had words about her new relationship as I think it is too soon for my brother who doesn’t really understand death.

I want to save him from any stress as he is the most important person in my life.

I don’t care what my mother does, I just want my brother to be OK.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I can understand why you might feel your mother is rushing into a new relationship, but often it is those who are most happily married who are quick to find another partner after being bereaved.

Anger is part of grieving but it will only hurt all of you in the long run – including your little brother – if you focus your anger on your mum now.

Your brother may benefit from a caring father-figure but maybe remind your mum how important it is he doesn’t feel pushed to one side.

You can find solid, understanding help for him through the childhood bereavement charity

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